By no means am I an expert on parenting, but there are a few things that I've learned so far.
Parenting is wonderful. Being a mom is one of the best things that I have experienced in my life. It is wonderful to see your child grow and learn. Seeing Ryker experience new things is amazing to me. And when he is well behaved, I am so proud that I could just bust! This past Sunday, we attended Devin's graduation. Ryker was so well behaved that I think I have told everyone that I see about it. I'm proud. It makes me so happy to see him like that.
Parenting is unbelieveably hard. You are now in charge of a person. Not a dog that you can lock in their cage while you leave the house. Boy oh boy it is so much harder than you think it's going to be. You have to make sacrifices. Before we had Ryker, I didn't understand why people didn't just want to leave their kids with the grandparents and go out at night. Now, I understand. Especially working full time. And I would absolutely trade a night out on the town for sitting in the recliner snuggled up and watching Tangled.
Parenting hurts. He falls down, he cries. He gets his hair cut, he cries. He tries to touch the hot stove and I quickly smack his hand, he cries. I turn around to leave for work, he cries. Oh this hurts my heart. He looks at me with those sad eyes and that lip out and I just want to go scoop him up. I want to hold him forever. I think to myself, before I know it, he will be going to school. He is already running around the playground and going down slides with little to no help. He is already pulling away to be independent. I love to see that he can do things himself. It makes me proud. But when he runs back to me, clings to me, hugs me, those moments I cherish because I know they won't always be there. There may come a day that he doesn't want to hug me before I leave.
It already hurts to see him growing up because I know that one day, he won't need me like he does now. But for now, I am going to treasure every moment I have.
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Friday, May 18, 2012
Frustrations
I will apologize up front for this one. Although I should not have certain people in mind when I write things, it is hard to remain objective and just get the point accross. This blog is something that I am attempting to use to get my feelings out so they don't all stay in and stew. But some of these situations running through my head are not my fights to fight and sometimes they aren't worth fighting.
Have you ever felt like you just wanted to slap someone? I know...this isn't the best way to feel, but like I stated I'm not perfect. But anyways, back on point. You think that maybe if you did this it would change their whole attitude. You know like, "Slapping some sense" into someone. That's how I feel today. I would love to slap some sense into some people who can't stop their mouths from running. I also think about the saying "The grass is always greener on the other side". People get this way about churches. They think (or should I say that they SAY because we know all too well that people don't like to keep their mouths shut), "Well that preacher doesn't yell in his sermons" or "Their praise and worship is more contemporary and they always have a drummer". Now...have you heard the new twist on the grass is greener quote? (Thank you to pinterest for this one) The grass is greener on the side you water. Oh how I love this statement. If you aren't happy with something, the best thing to do is to try and fix it. If you can't, you can't and you move on. But people just love to go to this person and that person to talk. Maybe it starts out innocent and you are truly trying to work together to fix something, but it usually always gets to the point of complaining. And there is nothing productive that comes from the conversation.
I have been directly effected (or affected, I can NEVER remember the rule on this one) by a person's blatent lies and slander, and I have to tell you that if you are doing this to someone else, shut up. If you are complaining day after day about someone or something...please just shut your mouth. I can deal with the pain, but when I watch it happen to others it just makes me angry. This kind of behavior is not making anything better and it certainly isn't helping the complainer because people just don't want to be around them. It hurts me to see so many people who have to deal with this kind of thing every day. How can we fix this? How do you move on and just finally ignore the hurtful whispers of rude people?
I don't really know where I am going with this blog. I don't know if my thoughts are jumbled or if they make perfect sense. (I'm sure they make perfect sense to people who have been hurt) This brings me back to my above comment of sometimes it's just not worth the fight. What I mean by this is you can't spend your life trying to change everyone's opinion of you. Some people are just so unhappy with themselves that they are just not going to like you. And as long as you know that you are right with God, then you don't have to worry what anyone else thinks of you.
I want to end with this with this verse “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive" 1 Corinthians 10:23.
So before you start to talk about someone think about the above verse. You can bad mouth that person (the minister), but is it going to be beneficial for me or them? I think the answer is almost always going to be no.
Until next time my friends...
Have you ever felt like you just wanted to slap someone? I know...this isn't the best way to feel, but like I stated I'm not perfect. But anyways, back on point. You think that maybe if you did this it would change their whole attitude. You know like, "Slapping some sense" into someone. That's how I feel today. I would love to slap some sense into some people who can't stop their mouths from running. I also think about the saying "The grass is always greener on the other side". People get this way about churches. They think (or should I say that they SAY because we know all too well that people don't like to keep their mouths shut), "Well that preacher doesn't yell in his sermons" or "Their praise and worship is more contemporary and they always have a drummer". Now...have you heard the new twist on the grass is greener quote? (Thank you to pinterest for this one) The grass is greener on the side you water. Oh how I love this statement. If you aren't happy with something, the best thing to do is to try and fix it. If you can't, you can't and you move on. But people just love to go to this person and that person to talk. Maybe it starts out innocent and you are truly trying to work together to fix something, but it usually always gets to the point of complaining. And there is nothing productive that comes from the conversation.
I have been directly effected (or affected, I can NEVER remember the rule on this one) by a person's blatent lies and slander, and I have to tell you that if you are doing this to someone else, shut up. If you are complaining day after day about someone or something...please just shut your mouth. I can deal with the pain, but when I watch it happen to others it just makes me angry. This kind of behavior is not making anything better and it certainly isn't helping the complainer because people just don't want to be around them. It hurts me to see so many people who have to deal with this kind of thing every day. How can we fix this? How do you move on and just finally ignore the hurtful whispers of rude people?
I don't really know where I am going with this blog. I don't know if my thoughts are jumbled or if they make perfect sense. (I'm sure they make perfect sense to people who have been hurt) This brings me back to my above comment of sometimes it's just not worth the fight. What I mean by this is you can't spend your life trying to change everyone's opinion of you. Some people are just so unhappy with themselves that they are just not going to like you. And as long as you know that you are right with God, then you don't have to worry what anyone else thinks of you.
I want to end with this with this verse “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive" 1 Corinthians 10:23.
So before you start to talk about someone think about the above verse. You can bad mouth that person (the minister), but is it going to be beneficial for me or them? I think the answer is almost always going to be no.
Until next time my friends...
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
Feeling Connected
I have two best friends. I am comfortable with these girls. I could share anything with them and I am fairly certain they feel the same way about me. I think about our relationships and how things started out for us. One, I met through church and small group. The other, I met in nursing school. We had things in common. We had things to talk about. We didn't get to this point of closeness overnight. It took work.
It got me thinking about the first times we got together with each other and our husbands (then boyfriend/fiance something like that). I don't remember specifics, but I remember thinking, I hope Brock likes them. I hope they have things to talk about. I hope they get along. It takes a lot of work to get close to people and I thank God EVERY day that he allowed these two women to come in to my life. And I thank God that their husbands have become Brock's best friends. He knows what he's doing when he brings people together.
SO...this got me thinking about the church, God. Why on earth would we think that our relationship with God would be something that would just be comfortable? Why would we think that we could just open up and tell Him everything, without working at it? Here's a tough question....WHY would we expect to just get that "awesome feeling" in worship if we aren't willing to bow at His feet and surrender every time we enter to worship?? If YOU want to feel connected, YOU have to work at it. So stop complaining, roll up your sleeves and be a part of the solution, not the problem.
Until next time my friends...
It got me thinking about the first times we got together with each other and our husbands (then boyfriend/fiance something like that). I don't remember specifics, but I remember thinking, I hope Brock likes them. I hope they have things to talk about. I hope they get along. It takes a lot of work to get close to people and I thank God EVERY day that he allowed these two women to come in to my life. And I thank God that their husbands have become Brock's best friends. He knows what he's doing when he brings people together.
SO...this got me thinking about the church, God. Why on earth would we think that our relationship with God would be something that would just be comfortable? Why would we think that we could just open up and tell Him everything, without working at it? Here's a tough question....WHY would we expect to just get that "awesome feeling" in worship if we aren't willing to bow at His feet and surrender every time we enter to worship?? If YOU want to feel connected, YOU have to work at it. So stop complaining, roll up your sleeves and be a part of the solution, not the problem.
Until next time my friends...
Monday, May 14, 2012
Therapy
Sometimes my mind doesn't stop thinking about things. Sometimes my heart is overflowing with hurt for people around me and it has to go some where. So I guess this might be it...I have never really known how to express my feelings to other people very well. I don't want to make people listen who don't want to. So, this is a totally optional thing. People can read it, or people don't have to. Sounds like a great plan to me.
Today my thoughts are on accountability vs. judgement. I have a really hard time with this. I want to hold people accountable, but I have always been accused of judging when I do. There is such a fine line between the two. I have google searched definitions, asked people's opinions and even at times obsessed over the thought of this. I read on a blog that the difference was that judgement was something you kept to yourself, to make yourself look better and accountability or confrontation was done out of love. But I have to admit to you, I don't even know if that is true. I have tried to confront people with love in the past and it has been viewed as judgement, no matter how hard I try to convey love.
So, my conclusion, people don't like to get their toes stepped on. As Christians we are held to much higher standards. We are expected to hold each other accountable. When I came to this realization, I thought to myself that maybe that's the key. If you WANT to be better, you WANT to be held accountable. If you have God in your life, you can see the difference. If you don't want to change your ways, you call those people your judge every time they open their mouths. This is something that I have a very hard time with. When Jesus comes back, or He calls me home, I want to be right with Him. I KNOW I am not perfect. I have never claimed to be. How do you go about keeping those accountable who may not have that relationship with God?
Well, I think my time is up for now. Until next time...
Today my thoughts are on accountability vs. judgement. I have a really hard time with this. I want to hold people accountable, but I have always been accused of judging when I do. There is such a fine line between the two. I have google searched definitions, asked people's opinions and even at times obsessed over the thought of this. I read on a blog that the difference was that judgement was something you kept to yourself, to make yourself look better and accountability or confrontation was done out of love. But I have to admit to you, I don't even know if that is true. I have tried to confront people with love in the past and it has been viewed as judgement, no matter how hard I try to convey love.
So, my conclusion, people don't like to get their toes stepped on. As Christians we are held to much higher standards. We are expected to hold each other accountable. When I came to this realization, I thought to myself that maybe that's the key. If you WANT to be better, you WANT to be held accountable. If you have God in your life, you can see the difference. If you don't want to change your ways, you call those people your judge every time they open their mouths. This is something that I have a very hard time with. When Jesus comes back, or He calls me home, I want to be right with Him. I KNOW I am not perfect. I have never claimed to be. How do you go about keeping those accountable who may not have that relationship with God?
Well, I think my time is up for now. Until next time...
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